Stop hurting your self-esteem
Committing to a lot of things simultaneously.
Okay! 2018 here. Let me make resolutions for this year.
I’ll join a gym.
I’ll read 100 books.
I’ll wake up at 5 AM daily.
I’ll drink green tea daily. Anti-oxidants- health- wonderful!
I’ll top my academic session this time.
I’ll definitely get a raise/promotion/bonus at my workplace.
I’ll find the love of my life this year.
I’ll quit weed, smoking and drinking.
I’ll enrol in online courses.
Do not commit to a lot of things at once.
Chances are if you even take resolutions of about 50–60% things mentioned above, close to the new year, chances are you’ll fail in almost 100% of your goals.
Because you committed too much, unnecessarily.
When you’re unable to achieve one thing, your self-esteem lowers.
Suppose one resolution failure brings down your self-esteem by a factor of ‘x’, and one success pulls up your self-esteem by a factor of ‘y’.
If you committed to bring 10 changes, and you fail in 7 of them, your self-esteem will be -
Self esteem= (-)7x (+)3y
The more you fail, the more your self-esteem will be down.
What should you do instead?
Just consider, if you have committed to only 3 things, and you get success in all three…
Self esteem= (+)3y
Your self-esteem here would be three times now. Imagine the confidence you’d be feeling.
- Keep your expectations low.
- Don’t expect to get abs in 1 month after joining the gym.
- Don’t expect your life/perspective will get changes after you’ve finished reading the first book of your life.
- Don’t seek motivation.
- Make brilliance your routine.Start by committing reading at least 10–20 pages a day, and in a few months, you’ll be reading one book a day.
- One step at a time.
- Or else, you’ll fall down the stairs.
- Understand the fact that if you really want something… IF YOU REALLY WANT SOMETHING, you’ll get it. No matter what!